KDU... This is confusing too! What does your hubby want....we hope for us...and we dont mind them cheating on the OW because they were ours first right. I think the same way....if he was happy with OW why would he be having sex with you. THen you question if she wasnt available or what. Your H seems confused right now and I am not trying to hurt you but from my experience my H will say whatever sound good just to get what he wants....Why do they lie???Why do they cheat??? I wish that they could get their priorities straight so that we can know what they are. Hang in there and dont be available everytime that he calls...if you feel the need by a vibrator...lol! Just trying to make the situation end with a smile. Hand in there!