BB thankyou so much for that advice and I appreciate hearing a males perspective on it so again thankyou. Now as for ML yes I believe I can keep it in perspective at the moment but you are right I will not always be available as a few knockbacks are healthy I think. It's sort of like when you first start dating isn't it you have to give the male the chase nothing can be too easy to get or it's not worth chasing......As for moving back in you have summed it up perfectly he will have to work at it b4 that ever happened as I wouldn't bother with our R unless we both made some changes and then together made some ground rules....Like once a week we will try to do this blah blah for sake of M. I totally agree with all you have said and if you have an opinion on anything from a males point of view bring it on and I am sure myself and many others will gladly give you a womans point of view should you ever require it......Look at this BB you have been around these boards for a short time but boy have you made an impact, your W must have been crazy to let someone so insightful get away but then maybe that was being hidden beneath the surface and has only just come out as I think it takes something like this for us all to truly become better people.....Thanks again BB....KDU
