Thanks YoYo and I took your advice and stuck to my guns and well here is my update....... Friday night H rings to say he will drop T.V. off in the morning, I said yep fine just give me a time so I can make sure I am home, H about 11am. O.K. fine I said. H then said where are you and I said out at the pub with friends and he said Oh who with and I said nobody you know and H said O.K. well have a good night and I said thankyou already am will see you tomorrow bye......(Was out with one girlfriend who he does know but didn't see need to tell him) Saturday H turns up early about 10.15 with T.V. and helps me put it in wall unit. He then says do you mind if I grab a coffee. I said no that's fine and he asked me if I wanted one and made them both. We sat at the Kitchen table and H said it's nice to sit and chat like this and I said yes it is and that's all I have wanted although I prefer it for sons benefit (Son wasn't at home at the time) H said look I know I made a big mistake on my birthday by letting OW say I couldn't come it hurt me alot as I really wanted to come. I said Look H I've told you before you have to make your own decisions based on what you want not what you think you should do. Isn't one of the things you said was wrong about me that I didn't take your decisions seriously. He said Yes. I said well that's all I am trying to do when you make a decision I am just living with it. H said well I made the wrong one and I am going to talk with OW and tell her that I am not happy with the ban on me being with you and kids at your house and that it is affecting the kids any myself and nobody else. I said to H look I know it puts you in a bad position but if that's what you believe and what you feel then maybe a chat with her is for the best. I know you don't want someone dictating to you how you will lead your life and he said no I don't want that. We then proceeded to talk about petty stuff and he stayed until about 1pm so that was 2 and a half hours??????? Then Sunday morning b4 sons footy he turns up for a coffee and hour b4 we had to leave. We just chatted nicely and that was it.... Today he has rung me at work over some petty thing and I did say I am glad our friendship is back on track and he said yeah well that because she doesn't know how much I am talking to you and I said look I don't need any details I am just glad we are getting along and he said yeah so am I but I will have that talk with her soon. He has made some very light references to sex so I can see it will come over the next few weeks where he will want to jump in the sack with me again.......Don't know at the moment what I will do we will have to see where my head is at when that time arrives......So that's my update, it's very up and down at the moment....KDU
