Wow I am so proud of myself I made it work. Whooo Hoooo Quick update for newcomers: Me: 38 H: 40 S: 9 M 7 2gether for 12 yrs. H had an A with OW from his work behind my back. They were shagging only for 3yrs until Feb this yr and he left and moved into a caravan. H & OW started seeing each other steadily a month or so ago, H was still ML with me OW found out then up & down but last Saturday H & OW are giving it another go. OW now says H cannot come to my house or spend any time with me. Can pick up son but not enter house. H has agreed......He says he doesn't want it this way but must do what she says in order to gain her trust (LOL) I have decided to go dark....
Yoyo thanks for your advice I will try that this week then and see what happens. Anyone else got ideas on what I do if H wants to have coffee on Friday when picking up son????