"Going Dark" - 101

[rearly]

quote: If you are constantly pursuing and bothering them, it's a great way to take the pressure off of them, and it's a "doing something different".

i have been staying in the family home and trying 2 b as dark as possible and act as if however my W announced her intention 2 proceed mainly bcos she claimed i was not giving her space

quote: If you were guilty of being withdrawn and emotionally neglectful during the R, it can be a "more of the same" behavior, and could do more harm then good.

this is probably an accurate description of the old me however, based on the point above, what should i do/ have done??