Yes it was weed. He has always smoked it, although during our M I stopped him the majority of the time.
He took me to a dope party at his parent's house (his step-dad smokes it), when I was 21 and he offered me weed (I refused), then this stoned guy called Ady fell into my DD's bedroom and woke them up and made them cry because he was drunk. They were only 2 and a half and a few months old at the time.
I was furious. I shouted at Ady and then went to bed early with the door locked. When Andy came to bed I made him promise never to smoke weed again.
He never did to my knowledge for the rest of the marriage, at least never in front of me. Then when he left in April 02 he admitted that he had taken up smoking it again.
I think on the whole it's mild, and it doesn't concern me too much if it's not in front of the children, but I am angry that he could upset me like that in front of his brother, show no thought for how he made me feel, and to still be chasing me around when he has this OW2! Then to do that and go off smoking and drinking and having fun.
It's like his life is one huge party and he doesn't care about the suffering he causes to others.
