When X and BIL were here last night, they kept making sex jokes etc and then X launched into this speech about how M is rubbish because hand-fastings are better, so I felt a bit upset by that and he could tell.
Sometimes I think I am just one walking vagina to these guys, honestly.
Anyway, I couldn't sleep and was up at 4am being sick etc (I think stress). This morning I couldn't get up and I've not had a drink all day because of nausea. DD4 is still in her nightie and it's 1pm now.
I rang X and asked if he could watch her, he said no because he's taking ex-ow's son back to Norwich today, so I asked if DD1 would come round and help me with her little sister. He said yes.
I went back to sleep. Later I woke up to find a message on my phone asking if OW2 could bring DD1 round!!!!
Here's where I lost it. I phoned him up, shouting and in tears about how he and his flippin' brother just treat me like a sex object and I bet he just thinks I will roll over the minute he wants a f**k. I said he was only holding my hand etc so that I would let him have DD4 whenever he wants and that he thinks I am a little prostitute he can just come round here and behave like that and then have the nerve to ask to send his little strumpet round here!
Wow, I was livid. Honestly, I bet SHE doesn't know he sex talks to me, and I bet SHE doesn't know he looks through my cell phone without my permission, and I bet SHE doesn't know he was round here yesterday, flippin' holding my hand.
To give you more detail, he and BIL were joking that I was still in the shower when he turned up and then BIL started talking about this black lingerie set I've got (don't know how he knows about it), and then X said I should have answered the door wearing that see-through babydoll I've got.
Then they noticed I've got my book cover as wallpaper for my computer so that's when X started on about M being outdated and hand-fastings are the future etc.
Considering I missed my DD's birthday because of his other women, and he didn't bother to bring DD round, I was already sensitive. I mean, of all the subjects to discuss with your ex-wife, it has to be lingerie, sex and marriage being outdated! I wanted to slap him.
I was happy that morning because things seemed to be going well and I thought he was going to come back with DD later on. Instead he brings BIL and the two of them just take the piss out of me.
So anyway, I rounded on him about OW2 and how he's so loose with sex he just thinks I am an escort girl.
He said it wasn't like that, he had to take ex-ow's son back home and would be out all day so he tried to think of a solution to my problem. He thinks sending OW2 here is a solution!? I said you are just doing it to wind me up like you always do, you have NO respect for me and I am always at the bottom of your list of priorities.
I pointed out to him that ex-ow's son (who is 22 and more than capable of managing his own life) is not his family, that DD4 and I are family so instead of helping me out and watching our DD like he should do, he's galivanting half way across the country with a man that isn't even his son.
To make matters worse, when he went home last night, he and BIL got drunk and stoned on dope and he was hungover. Honestly, he upsets me to the point of tears, treats me like his little call girl, then f**ks off home to get high on drugs.
I told him he should have been apologising to me instead of smoking dope. I said that whenever he comes round here, it's just to talk about sex or taunt me with his OW. I said he's always busy, hurried or late and if he could spend hours getting drunk and stoned, then why could not he and BIL and the kids have spent more time round here?
Oh, I was FUMING. I said I was so stressed out I was being sick last night and you were bloody smoking dope! and now you have the NERVE to leave messages about OW2 on my phone!!!
I just let all my resentment, hurt, anger, you name it, come out at once and I was crying at him down the phone and swearing.
He was trying to say 'it's not like that' etc etc but I wasn't listening. It IS bloody like that!
He said he couldn't talk, he was too busy taking ex-ow's 22 yr old son home, and he said 'I'll talk to you later.'
I said 'No you bloody won't.'
Then he put the phone down.
Ugh. Great stuff Jo. I'm going back to bed in a minute as I still feel ill.
