I know what you mean about "keeping the peace". I do the same thing with my first XW. I think Bruce is just alluding to how several of us (myself including) seem to just forget about the things we were complaining about just a month ago. You in fact were done not that long ago (and I was several times). It's amazing how easily our X's are able to draw us back in. Bruce, if your XW suddenly started wanting to do things together and showed a lot of interest you'd be sucked back in also.
Jo, in your case I worry your X likes to keep you on the hook but won't do more than that. When you are shunning him he wants you and then when he gets you back on the hook he reminds you he has several lady friends. Is this what he does with all OW? He's having a b-day party for a previous girlfriend? (or was it wife?). Just make sure that this time around you are prepared for any potential games.
You know, we all have things that contributed to the divorces. But the truth is that this was for richer or poorer, SICKNESS and in health, for better or WORSE. Those vows should be amended to reflect reality then. When people are sick or things are bad it's okay to run away.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
