Just as a matter of interest, look up hyperacousis, vulvodynia and vestibulodynia on the internet. I suffer with all of those as well as mild CP which is my disability, and fusion of C2 and C3 bones which causes neck pain.
As a small victory, I cured myself of the hyperacousis and now it only hurts when I have a cold. This has made a massive difference to my life and I can do loads more things than I used to be able to, and this only occured after we split up.
The other problems I still have and will do permanently. The vestibulodynia can be corrected by a surgery to cut out the vestibule but it is not without risks. Thankfully it did not affect our SL too much and I was still able to have one, unlike many poor women with this condition that can't even ML with their H's.
It just meant I was in pain for 2 days afterwards (the only reason I'm not an 'every day' sort of girl ) and it had a psychological impact on X because he then blamed himself as if he'd caused my pain. I had to use steroids for the first 3 years of our R in order to function relatively normally and it sometimes hurts to pass water, sore when wearing tight clothing etc.
Since I cured the hyperacousis myself, I am really hopeful now that I can do something about the other conditions (well, apart from the CP which is brain damage and I can't fix that). I think they are all auto-immunity problems, aside from the CP.
So I'm trying homeopathy now and am on arnica 200 and sulphur 200, 1 a day, and this does reduce stinging so that's a minor success.
I tackled the depression so I think I am an entirely different person from when we were married, and healthier than I used to be.
) and it had a psychological impact on X because he then blamed himself as if he'd caused my pain. I had to use steroids for the first 3 years of our R in order to function relatively normally and it sometimes hurts to pass water, sore when wearing tight clothing etc.