Letting XH in, making him tea, wrestling and laughing over the computer, cleaning up before he comes him, talking about the book he showed no interest in for a very long time, talking about sex, flirting . . .
Yup, in his mind everything is back to normal, I give him less than a fortnight before he does something to piss you off again and you will berate yourself and him. In the short time observing, even I can see the pattern.
Which makes a nice seque into something I was thinking about earlier. There is something we all seem to be forgettting here; they DIVORCED us. They left. They took themselves and their stuff and their life and left.
And yet we seem to go on with the R (and they do as well) as if nothing has changed. They come and go as they please, living the new life they desired. There are family dinners and movies and SEX and daily phone calls and their asking for help and money and arguments and everything married life was.
SO? Why did they leave if they wanted the married life (Or maybe only the convienient part at their discretion)? And why do we continue to go as if NOTHING has changed? Without the benefits of married life?
