I wish I could answer this for you, but I can't. You have to do what is best for you. I can only tell you about my sitch, which may be like yours or may be different. My H also told me he was talking to OW and it was "nothing". But my gut told me different. And it was right. Do you believe your H or is your gut telling you otherwise? I think so many times I didn't listen to my instincts because I wanted so badly for things to work out. Do some thinking and keep posting here. You may gain the insight your looking for!
Sorry I wasn't much help, but only you can make this decision!
WC Beth
God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
To change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
Okay, H and I spoke a little bit last night regarding the OW messages. Last night at 11pm she texted again saying that she misses everything about him. I still think that this is so wrong. He said that eventually she will stop. I stated that it doesnt help if he still verbally communicating with her. That was the end of that. Any suggestions on what to do now....please assist this crazy lady...lol!
You are going to have to follow what you feel is best! Your H seems to really be sharing everything with you - mine didn't. I knew there was contact but he hid it from me and never discussed it unless I brought it up. Keep letting him know that you appreciate him sharing this with you and to continue it as long as necessary. You might just have to wait the OW out. Which is the very hard part. Hopefully she'll get the picture and move on. I say if he keep plugging along unless you feel he's hiding things from you again. Good luck!
WCBeth
God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
To change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
I trust your weekend is without a lot of drama. It sounds like previously you were starting to see some emotional movement in your direction? Is that still happening? You haven't been on in a few days, maybe you are in Rancho Mirage. It is probably 115+ degrees out there because it's already 106 here in Riverside.
Anyway, check in if you are up to it. Your "adoring public" awaits ...
Everything is pretty much the same. Except Melinda (OW) is texting so much lately....she misses him, loves him, and so on. It is driving me bonkers but I dont show it. I feel like beating her up...lol! i just wish that she would stop...it is really getting out of control and I dont want him to fall into this trap. Well, I am having a surgery procedure again tomorrow so I will be at home tomorrow. I hope that everyone has a great day tomorrow and I look forward to hearing from you all.
Well...I am alive and my surgery went as good as to be expected.
I have decided that when life has to deal with me...H gets an attitude. Of course we are in the arguing mode again. I dont know what happens to him. I am not blaming myself this time for his mood swings....I had surgery and later that day I drove to pick up things that I needed...there was no other offer of help. I guess there is no time for me to relax. I am not suppose to pick up anything over 15 pounds but I havent had really any help from H with Hannah. I really just want to get along but if this mood swing has anything to do with Melinda(OW) then I am not willing to fight anymore. If my H's love can come and go so quickly...then I am sick of holding everything in trying to always act happy to keep the love...its not fair. I thought things were getting better but apparently not. I do still love him but when I went to the car because he didnt say goodbye this morning and wanted to make sure that he signed a paper...he drove off with me on the driver side standing in the street. I know I will get over this but I am just hurt with everything that I have going on right now. As always....trying to stay happy. I did call him this morning but no answer...I am hurt but at the same time tired of everything. Yikes! What to do next!
Glad to hear your surgery went well. Am sorry to hear about H's moodiness. How does he handle stress? Is he the type who avoids it? Did the surgery upset him or make him fear losing you and he's not sure how to handle it? Some men don't handle that stuff well at all (My H and my FIL, for example). I know it's tough but wait a few days and see if he comes around. Your doing awesome - remember you can't control him or his actions. Just worry about you!
WCB
God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
To change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
Hey BQT I don't have any real good advice for you at the moment as my sitch is not all that great and I am getting $hitty so just letting you know that I am thinking of you and sending good vibes your way but no advice as I am too much like a sour old lemon at the moment, when I sweeten up I will try and be of some help..((((BQT)))))....KDU
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