Okay....Last night I was able to joke with H about the text messages...I did it in such a great way. At that moment his phone beeped and gee it was her text messaging him....I started laughing (I think that I am crazy...lol) and he said it was from her and it said that she misses him and wants to talk to him and that she loves him. To me it sounds like maybe there is a little hope that he hasnt spoken to her...who know...I just got a kick out of the entire thing.
I have decided that I can let these text messages drive me crazy or just laugh about them and smile....it is only a message not a physical thing. If I found out there was a physical thing I wouldnt be laughing. Taking it one day at a time.
By the way thank NY for your smart ass comment yesterday...it made me think. I needed it!
Things have been good. H has been working nights the past two nights and this morning he got home at 3am and came to my side of the bed and got on his knees and hugged me and told me how much he loves me. At first I suspected guilt for something that he may have done but instead I tried to enjoy it and I told him that ILY too! We shall see how today goes. This roller coaster is a tricky one...lol! I am watching everyones thread and I think about you all!
Just checking in. I have been following your deal, nervously I might add, but that's just me. I'm happy for you but as you well know, I'm still a little nervous for you. I hope he's for real this time because you don't deserve the f***ing roller coaster ride any more!!
Keep alert, blondie!!!
DMF
P.S. 4 days in Torrance and nothing??? You disappoint...
I agree keep alert but it's looking good and i can't help but get a bit excited but slowly slowly have patience keep dbing but we can get a little excited.....KDU
Well, its Monday again and I have survived another weekend. I hope that everyone had a wonderful weekend....I didnt do much just worked around the house....fun, fun, fun!
I am still doing pretty good with everything but OW keeps text messaging. I have stopped asking what they say because I am tired of it. I dont know what to do about it and if there is really anything that can be done. I wish I really knew if H still has any other contact with her. This is my biggest dilema at the monent. I guess that I just don't know how to deal with it all. Other then that I am hanging in....trying to always be happy and keep things together. H did make one comment that he was a little bored sometimes....gee...don't know what to do in that catagory either. H says not with me but with life in general. He wants to do a lot of things but everything he wants to do costs money....I guess he needs to win the lotto in order to be completely happy.
Any thoughts would be nice...and again thanks for reading my stitch
I guess H is still talking to OW. I received this wonderful information from a little birdy. He has been home for a month now and hasnt stopped and I was believing in him. I dont know how to confront him on this but it makes me feel sick....but I will survive. How can he feel comfortable playing these little games with me by showing the messages to me and telling me that he doesnt get the calls anymore. What to do next....Just wanted to vent. Hope everyone has a great day!
Sorry to hear about your sitch. I have also had to deal with my H's OW contact. He has ended to A three times and then each time started it back up again. This time he was telling me how much better he was doing and how we were going in the right direction.I knew he had some contact with OW but ends up he was seeing her several times a week for sex! I asked him to move out. It was taking too great of a toll on me. In DR, Michelle talks about the LRT and After the LRT. She says you'll reach a point where you've had enough. That was me. It is so difficult right now and has been extremely hard on the kids. But we had been stuck in a vicious cycle and I had to break it. I don't know what to tell you except you need to do what is best for you and your marriage. I think sometimes we are trying so hard to save our marriage that we lose sight of ourselves. I did. I am not giving up but am just remembering that I can control me but not him. Good luck and keep us posted!
WC Beth
God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
To change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
Thanks WC Beth... I really appreiate your input. A LOT!
I did talk to H since my post and I was really nice and friendly and just said that I want him to be honest. I asked if he is still communicating with OW. He said that he has spoken to her but nothing really big or important. I said that I was happy that he was honest with me. He said that I have nothing to worry about. I belive that I do have something to worry about....or he would have talked to her. I just dont know what to say or do now...any suggestions
