It sounds as though H is angry at you because you are wanting to work on the M but he is really not into it, and this maybe the reason why he is lashing out at you. Do you think that maybe he is sitting things up to fail? Then he can say after a month if things don't work out, "Well I tried and it didn't work." I really hope I'm wrong and your H really tries.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years