Hey BQT! Man, am I ever sorry you have to deal with this. This part is almost unbelievable:
Quote: ...he said that everything is fine between us and he hates this s*it about me wondering if we are okay. He then said that we are giving it a month to see how things go and that he hates me...
How can anybody deal with that? You're doing great to keep your head above water. He's obviously amazingly confused and lost. Ow is handling the whole thing abominably which is adding to his distress.
What is supposed to happen after the month if things don't go as you want them to? Is he going to back to Ow? If he's truly done with her he'll have a grieving process to go through, as stupid as that sounds to us. His mind might clear after that.
In the meantime I would give DMF's suggestion some serious consideration. You could also take the same approach (very limited contact until Ow is out of the picture completely) without saying you're going to start operating as if you may never be back together. You could just say you think this is in the best interests of your future R. I'd say phrase it closest to how you actually feel about it.
Good luck! You've been strong enough to deal with this crap up to this point; I certainly believe you're strong enough to deal with whatever comes next.
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