I did ask him why he answered the phone and he said that he just did. We went through the fact that he told her and me that there will be no mor conversing and he said well I did and at least I am honest with you. The thing is that being honest is great but it does not justify talking to her. I might be sounding petty but I am giving 100% into working on the future but this keeps draging us back. I dont like to argue so I hold a lot in...but now I am feeling like maybe I should speak up....the thing is that it helps destroy the M. He also said that he isnt sure if he will talk to her again. The thing that upsets me so is that H said on Friday that he shouldn't talk to her because it can go right back in the wrong direction(in so many words that is what he said)This is why I am hurting....plus OW text messaged me yesterday saying that they will work this out and that he loves her....the message came from an unknown sender...but who else can it be. When I spoke to H he said that everything is fine between us and he hates this s*it about me wondering if we are okay. He then said that we are giving it a month to see how things go and that he hates me...this is why he doesnt want to be with me because of going back insted of forward. My comment to him was that we need to communicate on an adult level without the I hate you thing and that I am not the one that is going back....I have been moving forward. If he doesnt want the "drama" he can put a stop to that by not talking to OW and being true and faithful to his wonderful wife...me.
I just dont want to feel like I am doing everything to try and make it better. I do see how he is trying to show a more loving side but that doesnt account for the OW crap. I am just confused on what to do now. He said that we do not need to discuss this situation anymore....that he was honest about talking to her.....but is it going to continue and how do I know what he is saying to her. :-( Yikes typing this out makes me more upset! lol!
