H told me that he talked to Melinda...WTF! H said that he would not do this and look he is doing it.
Did he tell you why? Have you asked him what was his purpose in speaking to her?
He told you about it though, even though he knew the deal was not to speak to her. It's like he cares and doesn't really want to hurt you, but had to do what he felt he had to do, which was call her or return her call or whatever. Their conversation could've been anything... not necessarily a continuation of past infatuations...
I am sad, hurt and frusterated.
Of course. It feels like a setback, it feels as if your hopes are being dashed, and that's frustrating and sad. Maybe his call was all about OW pleading for him back and him trying to let her down gently. In that context, feelings of hurt may turn into feelings of joy.
I hate this girl....she ruins all my feelings and I am dumb enough to let her.
So, knowing this, what will you do to change those feelings around?
I dont know what to say or do now. I feel like saying F*ck it but its hard I dont want to feel like a failure. Just venting!
When in doubt, do nothing. Doing nothing is always an option.
Vent constructively and stop dwelling on the OW, please!
Should I talk to H about OW and let him know that I am not approving him talking to her or am I suppose to be quiet and let it eat me up inside. I know that this sounds weird but....I feel like I wasnt an instant answer....I dont want to waste anymore of my life. I guess its not a waste but
Ah your inner conflict speaks loudly...
You feel that you want an immediate answer because your patience has gotten short and you're not seeing all the results you'd like to see right now. It is what it is.
So if the agreement between the two of you was clearly for him not to speak to her, then yes, I'd nicely call him on it and see what his reasons were. Don't assume the worst (for your peace of mind's sake), nor the best (so as to set yourself up for a hit). Don't be accusatory, angry, emotional, yadda yadda yadda yadda... you know the drill.
