BQT1 - I just wanted to say that I am still following your sitch but don't have any great words of advice but I agree with Anna etc so listen to them. H may have said to you he is willing to give it go but are his actions reflecting this??? I think not he should not be making you feel guilty about how much he is missing OW, he should be working on your marriage. if you don't feel he is doing this then maybe you need to say to him "Look you seem miserable all the time and obviously that is because you are not seeing OW if that is the case maybe you better come back when she is out of your system as we can never work on us until you are ready to.....I don't know just a suggestion....KDU
