Wow! Confused #4

[kaydeekay]

Am I suppose to make a go out of this....am I just the doormat for a month

I know exactly how you feel. Since I allowed H to come back in the home several times I felt I allowed him to treat me like a doormat. Our MC told us that H moved back home too soon and should have gotten his own apartment. When I heard this I was shocked. I felt to work on our M he should be in the home where we could be together. Now looking back I totally agree with her.

If your H is serious about working on your M would he seek counseling for 1) depression/withdrawal from OW; and 2) anger management? Albert needs to work on himself first before he can committ to the marriage. Just as we are doing, we are working on ourselves with DB techniques and getting great avdvice from others on the board, and we have been doing this for months. To expect the WAS to come home and say "I'm ready to work on our marriage and be the best spouse ever." That would really be unrealistic. Words that we would love to hear, but they are just words. I believe WAS's have a lot of issues that they need to deal with first and we should be there to support them in anyway we can.

I hope this helps. I wish I had done some of the things that I have learned after the fact. Be strong, we are here for you.