BGT1 - That is advice a wiser Dber needs to give you not me as I have not been in that sitch. As to what I think I would do gosh I don't know part of me would want him there thinking he may decide to stay and part of me especially if he was being distant would think it was too hard to bite my tongue over how I was feeling which you would have to do. I really don't know I guess if I was honest I would probably say to him hey you - you don't seem very happy at the moment is there something I can help you with? If he said I am not happy with my life then validate and say no I am sure this is not what you expected and go in that vain but as to a solution I really don't know. Come on NYS or Anna someone must have some good advice. BQT1 I am just letting you know that you are not alone in trying to decide what to do and that I understand how difficult it must be for you but don't allow this sitch to make you miserable it is not good for you and you is what matters at the moment....KDU
