BQT1 - My goodness you poor thing. I don't know that I can offer very much advice. Part of me would be happy that he was home again but the OW would be hard to take. We don't want to be used do we just for him as he has nowhere else to go. Is he sharing your bed or is he in another room? Did you get much say in him coming home or did he just decide it? He had mentioned wanting to work on M but does he really. I don't know maybe you could sit down and have a nice chat and say something like look I realise you are very confused at the moment and I must admit I am too. I don't want you to have any pressure as you obviously need some time to sort out your own head and where you stand with things so I just want a bit of a guide as to how long you think you may be staying here blah blah. No pressure just try to make it that you want to help him but also need to know for yourself. If he is going to stay there maybe he can babysit certain nights and you the same....I don't know it's hard just trying to be supportive and applying DB skills and not letting your emotions take over is a hard balance to find. Really think about it from all angles and all consequences. good luck
