Thanks for your post, and for bringing it back here to my thread.
Quote: In your case, if your W is a ML person when she goes to bed, you not being there in the early evening leaves her in a bind because you are not there to fill her sexual and emotional tank when she might need it the most. I know for my own relationship timing was off several times and created more problems than I would have imagined. Don't play down timing. It is more important to some people than you can imagine.
Maybe I shouldn't have mentioned something so fleeting as her one time comment about being afraid that sex could become an addiction if she let herself get into it. That IS a highly charged comment that probably revvvvvvved up some HD people on the BB here. If you knew her, even back when she made the comment, you would think of it as idle chatter or the communication equivalent of airwave static. I only mentioned it in the context of CeMar's perfect wording thread, as an example of perfectionism.
Quote: PS. Speaking of perfection, I'd like to find the key that would unlock her desire. When we were first married, she told me that she was afraid of becoming addicted to sex.
Before I took my current job 10 years ago, that has been very good to us as a family, financially speaking, I was home with her at night. It was not about timing. The timing was always in favor of the sitcom reruns that she always preferred over ML. From my original sitch, even when we were first married, she preferred the at-the-time-fresh reruns of the Mary Tyler Moore show. "Love is all around". Bullship. Love is right here in the bedroom next to you and you'd rather get off on TV reruns.
As of 10 years ago when we both worked in the morning, she has not, to the best of MY knowledge (I'm her H. I'm the one who has been married to her all these years.) felt any sort of urge to MB. Back then there were a lot of mornings that I would wake up before our alarm clock would go off and want to ML. Most of the time she was not interested and would answer my desire by turning her back to me (rather than her ML parts) so I'd dry hump her butt. It was a fairly nice compromise, and I still enjoy doing that today. But no, she wasn't into it, definitely not addicted to it. She passed on it on many occasions. It was just something to say. The problem is HD people pick up on things like that when they are said and it sticks to us. 27 years later, I still remember her airwave static because it's something that I want to have happen, not because it has anything to do with her life, even though she’s the one who said it.
