WM... Again, I think it's great that you are coming forward to express to your W what you need from her; it's a big step in personal responsibility, and I hope it goes well for you. My H keeps an "everything is okay" appearance in order to avoid conflict; under stress it's his automatic default place to be, and I am left in a position of trying to figure out if something more is going on for him. So, I am going ahead and doing a Cemar... I would give ANYTHING to have a H who would express his needs clearly--these LE ( low expressive) men just don't get it,lol! Back to IHJ mode, I have to say that I am aware that I chose a man with a laid back personality so I could do more easily what I wanted to; I tried to take a short cut, but eventually paid a price. In the end, there is no substitute for truly good communication between two people, which brings me to your question:
Do you ever think that going through all the changes that maturing puts people through was actually designed to bring couples closer together?
I believe that changes and challenges are an inevitable part of life, and can provide the opportunity for closeness and growth, if we choose that path. I think whatever higher power that's designed this obstacle course is having a pretty good laugh, don'tyou think
Anway, I will stop with the philosophizing and wish you a nice weekend!
