Responding to your most recent post, the whole post, so I'm not going to quote bits and pieces....Oh wow! It is so great to read your words about having experienced this and that ultimately it brought the two of you closer.
I've kind of been down in the doldrums this week, knowing I need to talk to W about this. But mostly because she cancelled our Sunday night date last weekend at the Eleventh Hour. So now I’m faced with not only explaining the win-win I'm hoping for, but also how bummed I've become increasingly so every day this week about the blow off last Sunday.
Not that I'm expecting that our ultimate resolution to the popping issue will turn out as positive as your sitch, it still lifts me up to know that if we really come together and communicate about this that our SL "could" get better and more intimate. So at least I can approach one of the communication topics with a PMA.
Do you ever think that going through all the changes that maturing puts people through was actually designed to bring couples closer together? Like first a couple goes through the issues of a man popping too soon. Then they go through all the issues of pregnancy and childbirth. Then there's the raising kids together. Then there is perimenopause, menopause, and for the man, I think they call it andropause. It's like we grow together and more used to each other, and more silent, and then the next phase hits us and we start all over again having to explain ourselves and see how our mate or ourself is going to respond and assimilate to the new you or the new me. (This thought and the next one as well are both rhetorical and not meant for IHJ alone to have to grapple with, rather, all readers are invited to ponder.)
In a similar stream of consciousness, do you ever think that maybe all the HD/LD interaction between spouses was meant to keep us itching and scratching at each other's egos, and not let us grow apart and indifferent as long as we choose to keep choosing to be together with each other?
Well, the next two days will be very interesting. Will we both choose to do what it takes to get closer? (Sounds like a HD question, hey?) (HD response…I hope so!)
