Quote: Something as simple as (of course only as it applies to your own feelings) "Honey, you've probably noticed that I occasionally encounter difficulty in reaching orgasm. It's very upsetting to me when it takes me longer to achieve it. In fact I find it frightening and something of a blow to my sense of self. I don't want to cause you discomfort, but I do want to ask you to work with me to help me through this. I think if we could XYZ, or would you be open to me asking for a change of positions or ABC when and if it comes up again?"
Whaddya think? MrsNOP -
Quote: I think the best thing to do is to say to her that your enjoyment vanishes once you get wind of the "I'm finished and bored" attitude from her. Ask for what you want--I'd like to know that you are as enthusiastic about my finish as I am about yours and it would help me if we could incorporate xyz into it, during the times when you finish first. I realize that you are okay with not finishing but I'm not.
Take care, HP
Mrs.NOP and HP:
Thanks for your advice. It's nice to know that there are people at this BB who are as supportive and caring as you two. Any other Presidential aspirations in the near future?
I'm going to respond to your advice and not your questions since the questions seem more rhetorical in nature, like you want me to think about these things more than you want answers from me regarding the sitch. If I have misjudged, and you do, in fact want answers, no problem, just let me know.
The advice both of you have given me is very straightforwad and concise. And most of all, I appreciate it and will do my best to pattern my convo with my W about this topic around your suggestions.
Melding together your ideas along with mine, I think I can turn this into a win-win sitch....She wants to wind things down soon. I want to go until we are both satisfied. The win-win is this: Over the years, there have been a few rare times when she touched me with her hands, while we ML in such a way that it transformed the experience for me from a very genital oriented feeling to a total body type experience. And those touches were so simple. And in almost no time at all I was having the O of my life.
That is the crux of the win-win; if she finds herself getting tired of ML and would only touch me in that certain way in one of those places, XYZ or ABC the experience would come to a mind blowing climax for me in very short order. My win, mind blowing climax; her win, making hubby happy and successful ending to ML.
Neither touch XYZ nor ABC is all that complicated or intimidating for her, but is still mind blowing for me. Additionally, I think I would tell her that I never would have known how wonderfull XYZ or ABC could have felt until she discovered those erogenous zones on my body for herself, thus giving her ML skills an ego boost.
Important points form the Mrs.NOP and HP posts: 1. Discussing her comfort after her O and how she feels at that time when it takes me longer to pop that she was used to. 2. The turnoff for me when she gives me the "Are you almost finished?" look.
Thanks to everyone for your support and ideas.
Looking forward to this "coming" weekend,
WM
PS. Mrs.NOP, thanks for the links to your and NOP's threads. Looking forward to going back and reading them. WM
