Why do you feel you need to explain the differences? Isn't knowing there is a difference between the way you to view it enough or do you want to try and change her perspective so that she will begin to view it the way you do?
C47
I feel the need to explain the diference in perspectives so that she understands that what to her is "no biggie" is to me "going out of my mind." I have made my peace with her perspective of "no biggie." But I still need to make her understand my perspective that popping is the real deal to me, and I go crazy if our ML ends before it happens. I'm not a bad lover, just doing it with her for my own gratification. She likes hugs, kisses, and snuggling. I make sure that we do those things when we ML. If she wants to pop, I make that happen for her as well. What I'm looking for here is for her to understand that what makes the event for me is the climax as well as everything leading up to it and after it; but without the climax I'm just not satisfied. That is the perspective that I hold that I want my wife to understand. I am not asking her to adopt that perspective as her own, only to understand that is my perspective and how I am.
Quote: Put some work into enjoying yourself and knowing that your wife is into the love making and stop thinking so much about the differences in how you two view whether or not you orgasm.
C47
How do you get the idea that my wife is so into the lovemaking when she's making comments like, "Don't wait for me tonight." And "Tonight's just for you." Wouldn't you agree that those statements are a far cry different from. "I've just gotta jump your bone tonight." Or even, "I can't wait for us to ML tonight"?
