Quote: So there’s the sitch. Now, how do I explain the differences in the importance that we each place on popping while ML to my LDW?
Why do you feel you need to explain the differences? Isn't knowing there is a difference between the way you to view it enough or do you want to try and change her perspective so that she will begin to view it the way you do?
Maybe the act of sex is not about "popping" for her but about making love. She places more importance on the act than the outcome. Nothing wrong with that in my mind.
You, on the other hand need the act and the outcome. I'm not sure how explaining the differences is going to help you "pop." Are you unable to orgasm because of her view on whether or not she has an orgasm? If so then, it might be you that needs to work on how you are viewing love making with you wife. It's not all about the "pop" for some people and letting that interfere with your enjoyment is not something your wife has control over.
Put some work into enjoying yourself and knowing that your wife is into the love making and stop thinking so much about the differences in how you two view whether or not you orgasm. Cathy
