Quote: She didn't say "I want you to not want me." She said, "I want you to not want OF me" I think she wants me to want her...just not to bother her about it.
I'll take a stab at this... I agree with Lou that I think she's saying "I want you to not want ANYTHING of me." IOW you can do what you want, feel what you want, want what you want, but she is not going to do anything in response to your wanting. She may occasionally spontaneously WANT on her own; that's a different sitch.
Another way of stating it might be: "Don't expect anything of me," or "Don't expect me to respond to you," or "What you want doesn't matter to me."
The dialogues you reported were VERY interesting and really clear.
What about my question from before the weekend: does she see hostile motives behind other people's statements, or just yours? I know she assumes everything you do is motivated by your sexual needs, and I guess she doesn't assume others have sexual motives toward her, but does she feel that other people are also "after" something from her? That they want to take advantage of her? And is her attitude toward women different? Does she see other women as sisters, or as another version of the enemy? Does she have friends? Is she liked and respected by her colleagues? What is her professional reputation like? I guess I'm wondering if this nit-picky, cruel behavior is reserved for you or if she's difficult with other people, too. Not sure why I'm wondering... just trying to get a rounded picture, I guess...
