Quote: . I believe you should see that in my earlier statement when I said I have wished my H could kiss me or touch me with out it taking on a sexual nature.
There was a time when I might have been described this way. Years ago, during the very early part of the relationship. If my wife accused me of this today, I would probably laugh. "When was the last time I showed you any sort of affection and it took on a sexual nature?" It has been many moons...perhaps years.
I just don't see her that way most of the time. I used to see her as my lover, but the continual negative reactions and arguments and the change in her sense of humor and her outright aversion to physical contact finally wore down my attraction toward her. I know I still have the ability to see her as a sexual being, to be attracted to her physically, but it doesn't cross my mind very often.
And Lou said:
Quote: too many women that see sex as another task that they put energy into to give away and usually feel they get less in return.
This is almost directly out of my W's mouth...certainly she'd agree with the sentiment. She complains that she gives and gives and works and works, then she comes home and I want more. She complains that she lacks energy to give to me. Like I'm some sort of life-essence-sucking leech. And then, it's all for my benefit, she gets nothing in return, and of course, I want more in a few days.
Yet, she makes time to do the things that are important to her, including playing Hearts on the computer, vegging-out in front of the TV, reading, etc. All I want is for her to make some time for US.
