Hairdog, I don't know about your W but will say BB wants my attention, time and touch w/o anything sexual involved. I understand a little what your W is saying about not wanting anything OF her.
If she is anything like BB she wants to be given to with no strings attached and you not getting aroused. When you focus on what is important to her and put everything you feel in a vacuum, then she feels loved.
Sorry there is no vacuum to put your things in without you dying inside. This is something she has to realize. Relationships have to work for both people if they are to continue in a happy state.
not wanting anything OF her This is something like her wanting things from Santa Clause. Getting toys because she is good, not because she earned something or she contributes to the community pot/relationship. I think there are too many women that see sex as another task that they put energy into to give away and usually feel they get less in return. I would like to see more attitude along the lines that affections are something you share and experience with your partner. If the woman didn't get exactly what she need, she should ask for changes to be made, not quit.
HD, getting the V was a something I would have done if I were in your situation.
