Hairy, The eggplant sounds delicious. Delectable, even.
So lemme get this straight: You work a full time job, come home and make dinner every night and she complained that it was a light night? She's got balls! That woulda got one a frying pan upside the head, in my home.
Ok, so I don't whack people with frying pans (kitchen violence is best left to pros like MrsNOP) but still I am amazed that a person would complain about a fresh meal cooked for them. I think a summertime meal of vegetables is an excellent choice. At any rate, you stood your ground well. You are getting good at this man of steel stuff!
Regarding the rest of the play, all I can say is stand your ground. There is no reason why she should concern herself with what your motives are when you touch her. She is borrowing trouble.
There is no comfortable when being rejected. Was she comfortable with her father's rejection? Rejection is rejection and it stinks. However, it's not the end of the world and I'm quite certain that you two can negotiate your way around a meaningful sex life if she will just stop dictating what her AND your feelings have to be, prior to the deed.
