Hairy, I know you've mentioned the anger to her, but have you ever mentioned that you think her drinking is excessive? What was her response to that?
I'm thinking there can be no good to come out of telling her the topics before the MC session, except to give her time to formulate her deflection strategy. However, if you've never mentioned the drinking before, it could look like a "He's just pulling out anything he can think of to make me look bad" move.
I was thinking about you last night, buddy, and hoping that this difficult convo goes well.
My father and stepfather are both alcoholics and I know the dance well. Dad has been jailed for it enough times that he no longer has a license. Stepdad has tried to drink himself to death many times but modern medicine is getting too advanced for its own good, I guess. They are both wonderful people and it is nothin but sad. Of course, I can say that because I no longer live with either of them and have to deal with it.
It really sucks how one person can drink a drink and be fine for the rest of their lives and another touches it and it is like a switch is thrown and their brain modified. From then on, they have a "problem" with it that others just...don't. I'm not taking the responsbility away from the drinker cause that's where it squarely lies, but it SUCKS that there are people out there who have to be afflicted with that gene or tendency or whatever it is that makes them addicted whereas another person is just...not.
I can drink a half glass of wine every night and don't feel that seductive pull to have any more. My dad would have polished off the bottle and much, much more. Crazy.
Hope all goes well and hugs and prayers will be coming your way this next week.
