W finished a case yesterday and was relieved and fairly relaxed. I asked her if she would be able to spare an hour and a half for a meeting with the MC. W: Why an hour and a half? H: We have a lot of things to talk about. W: Well, can't we just talk about them? H: I'd prefer to do it in front of a third party. W: You know, someday you're going to have to learn to just talk to me. You can't always be needing your security blanket. H: MC is not a security blanket. I just think our conversation will be more productive if she's the moderator.
She started picking at me about bringing this up when she was finally done with this case, how she finally has some free time, and she'd prefer to relax. She said she'd look at her calendar and see if she had the time to spend an extra half hour at the MC.
I haven't told her what the agenda is yet because I wanted to respect her wishes to relax. Okay, I also was relieved that it gave me a reason not to tell her. I kind of want to tell her after Saturday morning when my three older kids go back to their mom's house...so they don't have to witness/get stressed out by W's reaction. And then part of me wants to tell her the agenda so it's out there, and, if her reaction is to scream and rant and jump up and down, then let her do it.
