Quote: So, how does she explain why she chose to not have sex with you *then* since it was *before* you told her that a sexless marriage wasn't your top life choice?
Ahhh, she says that, back then, I would initiate, she would decline (for whatever reason), and then I would mope, get nasty, make her feel bad, grow distant, etc. Remember, this is what she said I did. Did I do this? Maybe some of it. I'm sure that, after a while, I grew distant. I might have even moped. I don't think I ever got nasty or tried to make her feel bad.
That she has taken this past, and made it the basis of her "I will not make love to you until you are comfortable with me saying 'no'" mantra, is why we are here. Because, as I've tried to tell her, and to show, I can be comfortable with her saying 'no.' But she knows what is inside my head, of course. So she knows I don't really truly feel that way.
