Quote: Yes, Paul, she used to be a teacher, a professor, actually. She does miss the prestige that came from that.
But deep down, I think she just has a lot of anger inside.
I guess what I was wondering is if these are related. In other words, if you suddenly agreed to pack up and move back to her old town, would her attitude (and presumably your sex-life and overall relationship) improve? If so, is it something you'd consider? I'm not saying that's something you SHOULD have to do, necessarily, but obviously compromises have to be made sometimes. If divorce is not an option for you, you may need to consider other extreme options.
I really respect your desire to do anything to protect your kids from further hurt.