Hi hairdog...It's unfortunate she has side-tracked you, once again, into the unconditional love discussion. She gets some awareness/openness and then furiously rushes to defend herself...an old story. If you can, try to limit these kind of talks.
Good luck at the C tomorrow... you have this whole board behind you,lol. I agree with Chrissy that you should let the therapist know how much you are hurting inside...I imagine that IRL your humor and personality defelcts a lot.
BTW...a review...how long have you been in MC? When was the last time you and W were intimate?