RE; Cupcake I was your wife. the only thing that woke me up was my DH leaving.
I am glad you posted what happened to you cupcake. I see on other forums, leaving is sometimes the only thing that wakes up some people. Especially when one spouse thinks the other spouse is too chincken to do something drastic or one spouse thinks "what's the big deal. Things are OK the way they are." Some people don't get it unless you are not there.
Biggest obsticle sometimes is thinking" I don't want to make him/her angry", so too little is tried.
