RE: AndyAndy so why not change the routine. Let her initiate, and when she does, nicely turn it down.
Are you telling HD to turn down twice or four times a year sex? It might work for people who ML two or four times a week but not that frequency on a yearly basis. Almost BTDT myself. It sucks.
Sorry for jumping in here HD. I am not trying to speak for you. I guess I see your situation similar to mine, except I can do the touchng but little gets returned.