There is a certain amount of having to say "I'm sorry, I neglected you" when an LD person decides to ditch the LDness and go for the gusto. Having to say that is NEVER a pleasant thing, but I suspect it is the equivalent of being strung up on the rack, for your wife. I honestly think she'd choose medieval torture devices over having to come to you, her husband, and say she's been wrong and needs your help.
My sister is a type 1 and she is a lovely person. Absolutely my best friend. However, her husband has called me before just out of his mind with frustration. He can't clean the floors right, she thinks he should clean the showers more frequently than twice per month. Etc. Reminded me quite a bit of your situation.
Anyway, my point is that she'd have an almost impossible time of being wrong and apologizing for letting this aspect of their marriage go by the wayside. First, someone would be to *blame*.
I find the enneagram stuff to be so fascinating because it makes other people seem so much more tolerable, knowing this is a quirk particular to that type of person. Before I had a tendency to take too much credit for my good traits (how ma-toor I must be to not turn toilet-cleaning into dubya dubya three, etc) and brush aside (or be unaware of) my bad traits.
What I wanted to say is: Knowing that her personality will find it nearly impossible to admit to being wrong, is there another way to move forward without that step?
That's the beauty of the schedule (sorry, I know I'm harpin). She will not have to look like she is admitting fault..she's not stepping up to the plate on her own and just doing it. She is merely showing up on schedule night. It is a slight but subtle difference.
