Quote: Here's where we are: She wants me to commit to unconditional love for her (because my condition of having a physical relationship or I'm out is keeping her from feeling physical), and I feel I have done this in the past, yet she has said I'm not "really" committing because she "knows" I'm not doing it from my heart, and the weeks go by with little affection, and no ML. So I'm reluctant to ride that train again.
I don't see how you could agree to this HairDog, considering that you don't believe in unconditional love.
It's like she has skipped right over whether or not there is such a thing and has moved right into establishing a kingdom where she has the power and control.
I would back way up and address the unconditional love aspect.
Also note that she has told you to leave and has threatened to call the police on you and accuse you of abuse - she is asking for you to comply with something she has failed to walk successfully.
