Hairdog... I can say that I have had your W's POV ( and btw, I did read that book yrs ago)and now have your POV, and again, there's no "winning" here. You can get lots of validation from the BB that sex brings vitality to a marriage, and your W can point out passages in " enlightenment" books; what's missing is a compromise. And until you reach some sort of compromise, you both will be in your crucibles. You have to figure out how important this is to you and what you are willing ( or not willing) to do.
