Quote: Was there any resolution or just a temporary truce while you each left for work?
I think that there was some progress made toward resolution. The issues aren't resolved by any means, but what happened this time that appears to be different than other times, is:
1. I refused to apologize for being a sexual person 2. She seemed to take seriously my statement that I only "feel" loved by her when she is giving me physical affection (Before, she had only seen this statement as manipulative. Also, I really hammered the difference between my intellectually "knowing" that she loved me just because she was there, and my "feeling" loved, as a result of touch.) 3. I told her that, given number 2, above, I found it hard to give her what she wanted, which was an unconditional promise that I would love her and stay married to her forever. I asked her if she would find it easy to commit to a lifetime with someone by whom you rarely felt loved. She seemed to "get" this. 4. I "got" the idea that it was hard for her to feel physically loving towards me when she was thinking that her performance and effort were being "graded" by me, and that a "failing grade" meant I would leave her.
