Ok, so he's got hangups. Big ones.

Again, what I was saying was that it's not that he's necessarily LD (though his drive is lower than hers) it's that he channels that sex drive away from his wife, for whatever reason.

I think it will have to be at her insistence that they jointly find out what is behind the "whatever" reason.

Is he particularly religious? Is there sexual abuse in his past?

I kinda agree with Cemar...unless he is having wet dreams out the yazoo, his body will require some sort of release on a regular basis. I would be skeptical of the no masturbating claim--and I am married to a man who doesn't do that, LOL! (I used to be very skeptical of him, as well, but he finally convinced me)

How long have they been married? Has he always been like this?