OK, I don't understand this, or I wouldn't be here either, however, maybe some guys can offer input.
I call your H "passive" and he has this marriage check list. Wife, check. Child, check.
Your child is one year old, do your best to not dote on your boy but on the older kid, your H. There seems to be this blame time at 1-3 years old in child time. Mother says child needs me. Wife says I need husband. Husband says wife is allways with child. You get this Madona look of mother and child and expect husband to see his sexual girl friend not the Mother of his child. Some guys just think that when the reality of birth happens there would never be a second child for they become a MF'r. I do hope this is not the case but I have had a conversation with D's friend, male yet not a bf. This thought process does exist. Maybe you could find out what is on your H's mind?
Guys? Whatcha think?
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
