DN, welcome!

Did I miss your introduction somewhere? I haven't read too much here but when I do I find it beneficial to a lot of phases in life.

So how long have you been married, are there kids, when did it feel a bit off to you, how are your finances or anything else that may be "in the way" of the relationship?

How was it when it was good and you agreed to marry? How has it changed? Has it really changed when you look at it, or has the sparkle just gone and it really is the same?

Pity me that the heart is slow to learn What the swift mind beholds at every turn. Edna St. Vincent Millay