Nicki:
First of all welcome to the BB.
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H is reluctant to go to counceling.


No surprise. Few MC's can honestly claim to be male-friendly. I have had my experiences, see When Therapy Hurts. For your sitch, consider reading the the article on choosing a therapist or, mark my words, you'll be making your own posts under When Therapy Hurts.
Have you at least read the sample chapter of SSM?
Read the whole thing and go from there.

wdiftya


Why didn't I find this years ago?