Quote: Mulling over your past decisions and contemplating what might have been is guaranteed to make you feel crazy – so don’t do it, no matter what. Push aside all might-have-beens and concentrate on the here and now; you’ll find that people will sense the change in your energy and become much more receptive to your thoughts and ideas. Remember to keep that perspective as you go throughout your day – and beyond.
What sign are you? Maybe it's mine also.
It's a shame you have to waste looking good and dressing up. If you were closer I'd have a drink with you.
Sorry to hear about the job. Good luck on the other possibility. Getting that should be helpful for the PMA.
Although I haven't written much I'd have to say that your attitude towards your ex is exactly where it needs to be. "he can wait for the commercial break."
W
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
That's great that you can enjoy football so much. Okay, a beautiful woman who dresses up and a has a great sense of humor, AND likes football! Ex better come around quick before you're no longer available.
And I am a classic mopar nut (own one too!), I can cook (love to feed people!) and a bit mechanically inclined (can run a mill or lathe, and have been known to tear apart a vcr to fix it)!
Oh, sounds like material for a match making website!
Actually, I think I scare ex s/t. I have to tone down on some of this.
T
ps. I am wearing my dd24's short shorts today. Have to watch this too, since I don't want to dress like a 20 something, but hey, they fit and are quite comfortable!
If you're ever in FL, I'll invite you over to checkout my workshop. Just be sure to bring those short-shorts! (j/k)
Quote: Actually, I think I scare ex s/t. I have to tone down on some of this.
Nah. If there's anything I've learned in this DBing process, its that the LBS needs to keep up the improvements and be true to themselves, hoping the WAS notices and rises up to meet them at this improved level. I don't think stunting yourself or limiting your interests would work longterm, T.
On the toning things down: ex has made the comment b4 that he can't live up to 'my' standards. Whatever that means??
Ok, the w/e has been quite an event. Dd24 came up to visit her sis who is currently living w/her b/f's parents and ended up getting thrown out of their house yesterday! Long story, but it's done and she is back in Mich.
Ex didn't call all w/e, remember I told him not to? But then I'm sure he knows dd24 was here also. He just emailed and I am really not sure how to reply.
....how things? 'dd' made it home. would like to talk about me come to see all of you if could some time 'Ex'
Ok, he actually signed it w/his initial, which surprises me. We used to call each other by just that and he stopped that since seeing ow.
Any advice here? Do I let him stew for a few days b4 answering? I'm not sure if I'm ready for a visit yet. Help! How do I know he is sincere? And not just using that excuse to get me to talk to him? T
I don't think it's right to let him stew, but who am I? I would answer back, give me a ring and we'll talk about it. Thanks for keeping an open mind about visiting, S misses you.
Love and kisses,
T
Okay, forget the love and kisses or XOXOXOXOX
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
If you're not feeling ready for a visit then don't do it. I would respond to him, I actually like Wes's idea. But if you're not ready for him to come over, then don't. At some point we have to stop thinking what's going to be best for them or our R first, and actually think about ourselves first once in a while. (Sorry, I'm still sleepy, did that make sense?)
Tried to post a reply here this am, and s9 took over my computer! Also didn't get a reply to ex until now!!
Just sent him out a simple message, 'give me a call and we'll discuss it.'
In some ways, I worry that he is trying to use this against me legally that if I deny visitation he has record of his attempt!
But I really do want to see him, I just don't have any clue as to how to act around him anymore. Do I plan on being gone as much as possible? Let him see only s9 and not me? Are hugs and touching out of the question? I do know that that is his LL and want to play on that some, but is it appropriate at this point?
I'm sure dd24 gave him an earful already. She noticed how good I look, the progress I'm making w/s9 and was telling me that she wants to move closer now. I didn't mention anything on the job sitch, so she can't tell him that; but she does know that my car is acting up and ex may want to 'rescue' me on that. I'm not going to let him tho. Hmm. He always liked to give AOS to me, so does that mean I have his LL wrong?
Thx for the advice. I'll let you know whats happening after he calls. T
(j/k)