No email contacts either way. And since he has requested that I do not call him, I requested the same. Mostly just to see his reaction. And yes, this makes him angry. But, that's ok also. See, if he didn't care or was totally detached from us; there wouldn't be any reason for him to be angry, right???
The whole sitch is making me chuckle today. I was venting a bit, since I don't like being degraded (which I hear he is doing w/my family ) but it also means I am in control of my circumstances and not him. And yes, s9 is a checklist and yes, he is angry and no, I don't want that to make me angry. That's why I cut the convo short last nite. It would have blown up and burned a few bridges again!
So, details of his w/e!! he went to see his other kids. Couldn't figure out a thing to do w/them so hung out quite a bit at his ex's house!! Then sd16 wanted to show off her driving skills and they went down to an empty parking lot. Ex went ahead and let ss14 drive and ended up getting stopped by the cops! Ss14 was showing off, squealing tires and driving too fast and when the cops showed up, ex had him wheel around behind a building to change drivers but they were already caught by that time. Lucky for them, the cop knew sd16 and let them off.
The other stuff I heard about: ow is prominent in his life now, talked on and on about her; he already has bought another bike, had to proudly show off pics of it; ss20 is looking for dad to bail him out of financial trouble again and ex did his w/e check w/us while he was supposed to be having dinner w/the k's. Oh, and ex had tears in his eyes when he dropped ss14 at the foster care home, but hardly said a goodbye to sd16. I told their mom not to make too much of that, ex had tears when I had to move out and again when he came to visit us. But, I'm not sure why he didn't w/sd16.
To sum this up, I have put a lot of slack in the rope. I have to let him deal w/his own life for now and I do know that when he isn't venting to me, he's venting to s/o else. T
) but it also means I am in control of my circumstances and not him. And yes, s9 is a checklist and yes, he is angry and no, I don't want that to make me angry. That's why I cut the convo short last nite. It would have blown up and burned a few bridges again! 
he went to see his other kids. Couldn't figure out a thing to do w/them so hung out quite a bit at his ex's house!! Then sd16 wanted to show off her driving skills and they went down to an empty parking lot. Ex went ahead and let ss14 drive and ended up getting stopped by the cops! Ss14 was showing off, squealing tires and driving too fast and when the cops showed up, ex had him wheel around behind a building to change drivers but they were already caught by that time. Lucky for them, the cop knew sd16 and let them off. 
