I see you are losing patience with your XH. They are very frustrating and it may be right for you to not let your XH mess with you. However, going dark has not helped in the past has it? Are you cutting off email contact as well. I actually like the idea of not really contacting WASs by email. Regular email contact appears to give the impression of connection with little extra effort on the part of the WAS. I prefer telephone contact, where you can actually DB to some extent. I wonder if your XH calls every week and just checks off a to do list by asking "how is S9?" Or does he genuinely care? If the former what you are doing, i.e. going completely dark may take away the check list guilt salve operation that he is doing. If he does care, you can expect him to come back at you with anger. Your best strategy then is to stay calm and not get into an argument with him. In any case, your current strategy appears to be designed to move things one way or another. Try something different, right?
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
