You are right UD, I do need a time out. It really doesn't look like things will be calm for a while, though.
I talked to ex's ex last nite, (offered to do this for him) and she says it's just another lame excuse that his brother is sick. I asked her if we can work out the visitation somewhat so both her k's and my s9 gets time w/dad and she isn't willing to give in to let him see s9!
I am so frustrated on the job search, I want to find something in Michigan to close this distance but nothing is coming up. And I am aware that I may be giving that signal to the last company I interviewed w/here that I may not stay in this state for much longer.
I am in a mess financially, vented a little of that to ex last nite. His comment was 'didn't you have a game plan'? Of course I did, but some things were just totally out of my control. (Heat bill that was in collections was attached to my current services and if I didn't pay it all, we wouldn't have lights!) Ex naturally, did not like me putting this sitch in his lap, but I am tired of this struggle of watching what I say to him.
Update.....Ex just called, they finally had to do emergency surgery last nite on his brother, he wouldn't stop bleeding. They expect he will be sent home in 5 days (even tho he is still listed as critical?) and has to abstain from all liquor and cigs from now on! (BIL was heavy into both)
Ex will call again before he leaves work today.
In some ways, I wish I could take back a lot of what I said to him last nite, but then I felt it was time to move on also.
Sorry to vent here but needed to say something. I am just really confused over the change in circumstances right now. take care everyone T
