Hey all, new news to report..thought id just stick to this forum, seems less confusing with the threads since Im still new to all this. H came over this morning before work so we could play . I convinced him to "relieve his pressure" by coming here and I would make him a lunch for work and he could shower etc...HE DID!:) He says he is still confused, he is still talking to me about OW and I am doing well trying to just listen and rationalize about it. He was really upset that I went dancing Sat night and that other men were touching me while we danced..He doesn't understand why he is jealous especially if he is trying to let go, he says he's trying to let go of me....or that he did last night or whatever..(obviously he hasn't). I think he wants to let go, but he's thinking of the wrong one to let go of...does anyone know if that's possible? Has anyone been in that sitch? I mentioned that to him, said "you know, maybe it's not me u want to let go of" (or something like that..) and he said thats what OW said too..I said well, yeah, cuz she wants u...he said well, so do u. I said yes, but sitch is different, he has a family we have created, a home HE has established, a life HE has made...*(notice I used HE there instead of WE,giving him the idea that he is the main of the household). I think in my sitch, sex is the key to getting him back...or at least the biggest step to doing it. He had started out w/ me when we first began this, that it felt wrong, that he shouldn't etc.,..now that is hardly said at all...and b/c I am being more open and honest and less inhibited by things, I think that is helping as well. Any comments????